Just because something has held you back in the past, doesn’t mean you will be held back forever. Today is the day to start viewing your struggles as weights that simply need to be removed. You can move past your past and become a better, stronger you. The weights that hold us back could be anything, and will be different for each person, but they can all be overcome with enough time and care.
If you want to finish the race of life, if you want to make it to the finish line, you’re going to have to let go of some things that may be holding you back in the race. Call it de-cluttering; call it simplifying. There are some things that need to be laid aside in order to finish well.
What kind of things am I talking about? The things that cause you to get discouraged. Think of it this way: If you attach one light bulb to a battery, the battery will run for a long time. If you attach 100 light bulbs to a battery, it will go dim and dark really quick!
When you keep adding things to your schedule and your life, you will quickly become discouraged and tired.
A weight is anything that slows you down. It could be a relationship, a job, an activity, or a sport.
A weight can also be an unrealistic expectation that comes from peer pressure or the need to please someone, or it can be a memory.
The problem is that you can’t live in the past or even in the future; you can only live in the now.
Whatever the weight is, if it isn’t working in your life, if it’s dragging you down, you need to let it go.
– via rickwarren.org
We all have unique struggles to become our most free, happy selves, but there are also some common issues many of us face. If you feel yourself being held back by these universal self-sabotage techniques, take some of these expert pieces of advice into account.
If in the past you have struggled with negative internal voices or fear of failure that’s stopped you from taking action, remember that that doesn’t mean you will have a future riddled with the same things. You can overcome and become a stronger, happier, more successful version of yourself.
1) Waiting for the “perfect” time
If you kill the butterflies in your stomach, you’ll kill the dream. Most people back away when they get that nervous, uncomfortable feeling. But that feeling signals you’re doing something that matters to you. Embrace the feeling. Lean into the discomfort. Try to understand what the feeling is telling you. Train yourself in the alchemy of fear.
2) Assuming that you know how things will turn out
Many people don’t get started on something new because they’re afraid they already know how things will likely turn out: badly. Probabilities and statistics aside, you have no way of knowing what will actually happen in your case. I’ve observed time and again that life likes to reward our courage in truly amazing and surprising ways. If something is calling to you in your heart, you owe it to yourself to at least give it a try. Be optimistic and leave the results up to life.
3) Listening to the negative voice inside
You are not special, that voice you hear inside that discourages you, belittles you, tells you you’ll fail, tells you to give up, tells you not to bother, is inside every single person. Some of us have just learned not to listen, or how to forge ahead anyway. When you step out of your comfort zone (or even just think about it), that voice will get louder. This is so predictable it’s almost boring. Don’t let it stop you, it tries to stop everyone.
– via Psychology Today
What do you feel are some things that hold you back? Could you put these ideas into action in your own life?